Womens and Parenting

Without underestimating the authors of books that give tips on how to raise your children, or fail to appreciate their efforts and knowledge on the subject, I am in favor of continuing the “old fashioned”.

When we have children, we want to avoid the mistakes that we, our parents made with us and improve those aspects that we believe could weaken. We try to offer all the facilities that we already live in, we could not enjoy and we never lack anything.

Many parents who have implemented the method “child Sleep,” by Eduard Estivill, arguing that they have to learn to sleep alone. To this question I always ask myself why? Few times I have answered that they use to correct the baby’s sleep problems. The most common responses were as if the child sleeps alone will not need the father or mother are with him / her and so did not have to leave it strange when sleeping in my grandparents’ house. In these cases, I understand the “need” to learn more for parents than for children.

Since this issue has caused diversity of opinion, there have been other books that advise the opposite method: Sleeping without tears, Rosa M ª Jové Montanyola, which advocates a philosophy more natural, with no time or trouble for any of involved.

I understand that he has undertaken any of these two methods and it has worked, will defend against the opposite. When you release it as a father / mother, it is difficult to choose any “method” of parenting and education and, of course, everyone chooses the option to create more correct.

However, maternity / paternity leave, as in all fashions and customs are temporary and, perhaps, sometimes, we tend to follow the norm or the inclination of the masses before thinking our impulses, our own philosophy or our nature.

If the baby sleeps well, if you like rocking in your arms, lie to him while you sing songs and you tell a story, if you avoid tears, hers and yours, why not?

Not for me to give advice, but in this case, yes I would advise that, before resorting to a book, look for the answers in our intuition and what love for our children gives us.